Wednesday, February 25, 2009

Co-sleeping: A quick quote

According to Unicef's Baby Friendly Initiative, "bed-sharing encourages intimate contact between mother and baby, which facilitates a close and loving bond. Successful breastfeeding and better sleep are more common among mothers and babies who share the same bed. Evidence suggests that bed-sharing is common among parents with new babies both in hospital and at home."

I first used this quote in October 2008, but it never gets old.


Hippie Housewife said...

I have such fond memories of the first night I spent in the hospital after my son was born, cuddling my little guy close the whole time. It still brings tears to my eyes.

(I was also a bit shocked and pleasantly surprised that none of the nurses objected!)

22 months later, he still crawls into our bed every night. :)

Maria said...

I had my son in Germany, and they never brought me a bassinet thingy for my son. I was EXPECTED to sleep with him! :) We still co-sleep (26 months) and nurse. :)

♥Joy♥ said...

I think co-sleeping is awesome if done in the right manner. By this, I mean It is for the baby AND the mother or just for the bonding process or just for the baby. If co-sleeping becomes ALL ABOUT the mommy and what SHE is wanting, that is when I have the problem with it. It's no longer about the child or the bonding processes.

I have a family right now that is driving me insane. She says that she co-sleeps. I've been to her house, and yes, there is a co-sleeper next to her high-rise bed, with pegs up under it so it reaches. Sounds great, yes? Ummm, no. I feel this mother has turned it into a 3 ring circus. She naps laying next to this child, she puts the child to bed laying next to her, and at all times of day and night, if the child even whimpers its an instant bottle in the mouth and/or hand on the back and the child will immediately fall back to sleep. I feel she has created this child into complete dependency on her (the mother) to be right there just so she can sleep. That may not sound so bad at the moment, but it is HORRIBLE at my house when I care for this child. (I will mention the mom is pregnant,due in May. The child I am referring to is about 14 months old, looks about 6 months old and there are 3 older sisters ages 2 3 & 7.) This child, when in my care, WILL NOT sleep unless you are touching her. She will not nap. If you have your big toe on her foot, she will sleep soundly but if any of the other children in my care need attention or assistance, this child will wake up the instance I am not touching her and out of the room and do nothing but scream. She would scream all day long. When I bring this up with the mother, she states I should be holding her in order for her to sleep soundly and not in the DHS Mandated Crib. I replied to her as kindly as possible that in my line of work, that is an impossible feat. She did not like this. So, where is the line here? Is the mother creating this or is this normal? Do all children of co-sleeping act this way? This is totally turning me off to co-sleeping (which I tried to do with Olivia but she was too tactile-sensitive and couldn't stand being in bed with me =( even as an infant! I did it with Natalie until 10 months of age where I transitioned her into her own bed at her repeated signing request.) I know that environment can cause this particular response to co-sleeping as well, but this experience I am having with this child is wearing me out, sapping my energy, and making me irritable. I dont have time to hold this child for 3 naptimes a day when I have 2 other babies and 9 other children with needs too. Maybe I am looking at this too harshly, but I'm just being honest here. =D Great post though! =D

Maria said...

"So, where is the line here? Is the mother creating this or is this normal? Do all children of co-sleeping act this way?"

I can't answer all of those questions Joy, but I can tell you that not all co-sleeping children act this way. My son sleeps alone at daycare and does fine. When he first started, late for most babies (9 months), he would get rocked to sleep and then put in to his crib/cot. When he moved to the 1 year old room, they reduced it to patting his back, which took a month or so, and then he started falling asleep on his own. I don't think those are unreasonable requests (he's always been in a center). However, around that same time, I also stopped nursing him at first fuss (we had reverse cycled due to his dislike of bottles) and now, at 26 months, he will occasionally reach for my arm, and he does ask to nurse once in the night, but HE initiates the contact not me.

This is not to say that all children will respond the way mine has, but not all co-sleeping babies are like the one you describe.

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